Books, internet, videos, advice from parents and friends, all went out the window.
We brought Sophie home on Wednesday 10 August. And all hell broke loose. The combination of a cranky baby, sore mother and a clueless father meant loads of mess, running around, harried looks and stress.
Joking aside, it’s good to have her home. 🙂 It was very very intense for a few days but we’re glad she’s home and she’s settling in, slowly but surely.
It hasn’t been easy though. After Sophie was born, we were ragged trying to figure out what she wanted; if she was hungry, needed a change, needed a cuddle, cold, warm, etc. So we didn’t get much sleep for the first 48 hours or so. After that we settled into a modified routine suggested by the Contented Little Baby book by Gina Ford. It sort of worked, and at least we knew when it’s best to change her nappy (even if she didn’t use it) or for the wife to express.
So Sophie’s day typically looks like this:
7:00 – Wake up. Actually we’re awake much earlier as Sophie usually needs a change or feed before this. And we were probably not asleep in the first place so this is just a time for the day to begin.
8:00 – Feeding frenzy 1. The wife usually feeds Sophie while I panic. Breast milk usually takes a few days to come in post delivery, and we need to make formula to top up her feeds. It’s Daddy’s job obviously, but try doing it at 2am while suffering from a lack of sleep, while cursing the many tiny fiddly parts that come in today’s modern anti-colic bottles.
9:00 – 10:00 – Kick time. By all reckoning, she should be awake at this time. We usually put her on the play gym and let her kick about while we go about doing some essential chores. The only problem is that every time get try to get her on the gym, she falls asleep!
10:00 – 11:00 – Feeding frenzy 2. In most cases she would have settled down by now. The wife feeds her for a second time while I, if I am organised, will have had the top up formula ready and waiting. The thing is that we’re normally not that organised and Sophie will be waiting for her top up to cool down while Daddy curses modern technology that can get something cold to be hot but not get something hot to be cold.
11:00 – 12:00 – Bath time. Or should I say, scream time. Sophie hates taking her bath and will scream down the house. “It’s like going to the spa, honey,” the wife will say. One hopes that she will dislike her baths less in the weeks to come, or at least not try to destroy any living thing within hearing range every time she has a bath.
12:00 – 14:00 – Nap time. A little lull from the morning of madness while Mom and Dad have their lunch and finish some chores that would have piled up over the morning (and the night before). Inevitably Sophie will need changing and settling but normally, this is a time where we can sometimes take a nap.
14:00 – 15:00 – Feeding Frenzy 3. If we’ve not woken her up yet for her feed, she will let us know. We are usually more organised this time round, and will either have prepared Sophie’s top up in advance or the wife would have expressed some breast milk. So all systems are OK here.
15:00 – 17:00 – Kick time. Sophie either goes on the play gym or in the cot for her kick time. Most of the time she falls asleep due to
the mild sedative we put in her milk having just being fed. We go about preparing dinner while she kicks, naps and generally looks around.
17:00 – 18:00 – Top and tail. We give Sophie a quick wipe down before giving her another feed. For some reason she hates this too. Yet more trashing and screaming. We’re thankful that her room is sort of away from all our neighbours so they probably don’t hear that much (or so we think).
18:00 – 20:00 – Dinner. For Mom and Dad. And shower. And some chores. And maybe some TV and couple time. But that doesn’t last for long.
20:00 – 23:00 – Feeding Frenzy 4. It’s quite weird how the book I mentioned above recommends that ‘the baby should be fed in a darkened room, and without eye contact.’ This isn’t a large person we’re dealing with, but someone tiny. Looking anywhere near the place where you’re supposed to give her sustenance will result in eye contact. And darkened room? I think we need some light to see what we’re doing. We may just end up trying to feed Sophie through her nose! Or ear.
23:00 – 07:00 – Sleep, feed, poop, pee. That sort of sums up our night. Some babies go about 2 hours between (that’s from the START of the feed). Sophie’s getting up to 3ish hours between feeds so it gives us a chance to get more sleep. But that doesn’t account for the many bleary eyed nappy changes during the night.
Suffice to say our world has changed significantly since her arrival. And it’s a good change. It’s a massive adjustment but every time we look at her, it’s all worth it. 🙂