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All things bad and good

It’s been a really long time since I last updated this blog. It was in February. I’ve even had to check my blog for that! Lots and lots have been happening since February. Some good and some bad.

Recovery

This is a bit of a hit and miss. I’ve been fighting a persistent cold (Rhino virus) since December 2011. And it’s just going away. Also, since the CMV virus has reactivated in my body, I’ve been on Valganciclovir and it’s proving to be murder on my blood count. I’ve found myself neutropenic many many times, and needing GCSF jabs almost daily to keep my blood counts up.

I’ve also been warded 2 times in the last 4 weeks for infection, the last one a chest infection that took over nearly 1/2 of my left lung!! Not very nice. Thankfully it’s all clear now and even the cold seems to be retreating a little. 

Family

Sophie’s just turned 9 months old. She’s crawling and learning to walk (every parent’s nightmare). She’s also really curious and very very observant. We’re taking a long deserved holiday back to Asia to see the rest of the family in a few days and everyone’s really looking forward to meeting her.

The wife’s hanging in there, pushing herself to the limits everyday to make sure that Sophie gets the best that she can get. So a typical day in the life of the wife is:

07:00 – Wake up and breast feed Sophie

09:00 – Wake up and take over breakfast feeding duties from me

10:00 – Dress Sophie and take her to playgroup

11:30 – Lunchtime (Sophie’s)

12:30 – The wife inhales her lunch if she’s lucky.

14:30 – Monkey Music or a walk in the park, if the weather is good.

15:00 – Breastfeed Sophie

16:00 – Back home and Mummy play time with Sophie

17:30 – Dinner time (Sophie’s)

18:15 – Sophie’s bath time

20:00 – Dinner (ours)

23:00 – Bed time

A pretty packed day with plenty of stimulation and activities for the little one, which I’m sure is one of the reasons why she’s so observant and curious. But then the wife is exhausted by the end of the day. 

Work

Work’s been a bit of a disaster to be honest. While they’ve been very good to me while I was undergoing treatment, now that I am back full time (albeit 3 days in the office and 2 days from home), I still can’t commit the time and energy that I want to due to the fact that I can only travel off peak and need to take time off for clinic visits.

So they can’t assign big, juicy projects to me; the very thing I was hired to do. It’s immensely frustrating to see projects like these assigned to someone else.

It’s also been a long hard slog since I’ve been diagnosed (in more ways than one), and the wife and I have been really looking forward to this break for a very very very long time. So while everyone fawns over the little one, we’re going to have a good, nice, long break. 🙂 

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Sophie’s world part 2

Looking back at some of the blog posts and I realised that it’s been quite a journey since that fateful day a year and a bit ago. We’ve all come a long way, especially Sophie who’s grown by leaps and bounds. She’s such a joy now and everyone who’s met her says that she’s such a cute and good baby; very attentive and observant to her surroundings. Makes us a parents proud. 🙂

I thought I update our timeline a little since it’s been 6 months since the last Sophie’s world post. Things have moved on since then and it’d be interesting to see how far we’ve come and how things have changed.

06:45 – Rise and shine. It’s time for Sophie’s morning milk and since she’s been sleeping in another room, we’ve been lazy. We normally wait and linger in bed till around 7am before getting her in for a feed.

07:30 – Back to bed. She’s normally done by this time, and I put her back into the cot while the wife and I both try to get a little more sleep.

07:45 – Wakey wakey 2. It’s time for me to get out of bed and get ready for work. I have my usual breakfast and coffee and read the morning news over the internet. Sophie’s usually asleep but if she’s not, she’ll be squealing and ‘pffting’ in her room. We usually let her be.

08:30 – Wakey wakey 3. The wife usually gets up at this time and prepares for Sophie’s breakfast of baby rice and milk. Sophie’s usually stirring by now but we let her lie in.

09:00 – Work time & breakfast. I leave for work. The wife feeds and changes Sophie while trying to gulp down her tea and toast before they turn cold.

10:00 – Play time. Most days the wife takes Sophie to the local play group in the area. She loves it. She gets to interact with other children and new toys, while the wife meets other mums in the area. Presumably to whinge about their useless husbands. 🙂

11:00 – Milk time. It’s time for Sophie’s mid morning feed. The wife’s usually still at play group and feeds her there.

12:00 – Lunch. The wife feeds Sophie her lunch, usually of pureed carrots or sweet potatoes. Yes, after her milk. She’s quite a glutton. The wife tries to enjoy her lunch as well, but usually ends up having cold pasta or soup.

13:00 – 14:00 Kicktime. The wife lets Sophie play around for a few hours after lunch while she does some chores, hoping that she’ll get tired and doze off eventually. No such luck unfortunately. She’s a little pocket rocket that one.

14:30 – Milk time. Yet another feed. She really drinks a lot of milk.

15:30 – Playtime. If the weather’s good, and if Sophie’s not sleeping, the wife takes her to the local playground for some time on the swings and see saws.

16:30 – Nap time. Sophie’s usually tired out from all the activity and takes a short nap. When I say short, I mean about 10 mins.

17:00 – Back, milk time and dinner! I’m home by this time. And spend a precious few moments with my girls before the chores start. Sophie gets her evening snack and dinner while Daddy prepares dinner.

18:00 – Bath time. This used to be scream time. But now it’s wiggle and fight time. She’s not scared of the water, but she just doesn’t sit still in the tub. Add soap and you get a slippery baby. Tons of fun. The wife takes a shower after this while I read Sophie her bedtime stories.

19:00 – Milk time. Sophie tanks up for the night, and usually falls asleep pretty soon after she has her milk. Daddy takes a shower and makes dinner.

20:00 – Dinner. Finally, some adult time. The wife (exhausted) and I (similarly so) sit down for dinner, rarely together as Sophie stirs quite frequently during this time. But we take what we can. We both sit down to get things done after dinner, or at rare moments, unwind.

23:00 – Milk time. Sophie’s midnight snack so she can last through the night. The wife and I also get ready for bed.

Midnight – Bedtime. We crawl into bed and are asleep almost instantly. Then the alarm goes, and the day starts over again.

Looking back it’s actually quite a change from the time table we had 6 months ago. The big difference is that she sleeps through the night now and the wife spends a lot of time outdoors with Sophie. Exhausting for the wife but good for Sophie.

It’ll be interesting to see what the schedule is like 6 months from now. 🙂 

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And they’re gone

It’s finally time I guess. They can’t stay forever. It’s fantastic that they’ve been here since late August, helping out with the chores, with Sophie, offering the wife support, offering me support when I was in the hospital. They’ve endured a torrid Autumn and a (thankfully) mild Winter here. Overall, it’s been a good 5 months.

Yes, my mum and auntie left for the warm shores of Malaysia on 9th January. To say that our tiny flat is now much quieter is an understatement. While they helped the wife and I (especially the wife) out a lot, they were there for her emotionally as well. The wife definitely felt the void when they left.

But the one person who missed them the most was Sophie. She was only 3 weeks old when they came. She was quite a handful then, crying almost non-stop every day. But they adored Sophie and doted on her. Sophie adored them too and when they left, the poor girl was looking for her Mama (grandma) and Guma (grand auntie). She cried inconsolably for nearly 90 minutes the afternoon they left. Babies are habitual, and she’s gotten so used to falling asleep on Guma’s shoulder in the afternoon that no one else would do. We finally managed to calm her down by sitting her in front of the TV and getting her to watch ‘Deal or No Deal’, a game show that my mum and aunt used to watch in the afternoon. She was OK after that (thankfully).

It’s going to be harder and more tiring for the wife and I to look after Sophie now that we’re short of 2 pairs of hands, especially now that I’m going back to work a few days a week. But as parents, we have to do it. We managed it before they came, and we sure can manage it now. Plus she’s a lot easier to look after now.

Anyway, like I said before, they can’t stay forever. We were very fortunate that they’ve stayed for so long and helped out so much. For now, we just have to get back into the routine that we had before. 🙂 It’ll be good. 

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11 weeks

Sophie’s about 11 weeks old this week (22 Oct 2011). How time flies. It seems like just yesterday that the wife and I nervously went to Queen Charlottes and Chelsea Hospital in Hammersmith for our procedure, and finally got our hands on our little screaming bundle. I remember being shocked at the volume of her cry scream, and how long she could go on for.

She was so tiny then. I was looking back at some of the pictures we took when she was just a few days old, and although at the time, we thought that she was quite a large baby, she’s just looked tiny now.

I remember when we first brought her home, I took a series of pictures of the two of us using the laptop camera. This is Sophie when she was about 2 weeks old.


This was taken when she was about 2 months old.


She has certainly grown. I still remember giving her a bath for the first time. I was so nervous, but eventually got the hang of it. Didn’t help that she was screaming the whole time. Even the midwife commented that she had a very very loud voice. And it was at that point that we knew we had a little firecracker on our hands.


She still has that look when she’s about to cry. I find it so amusing sometimes that instead of picking her up I just sit there and laugh. Honestly though, besides getting a little bigger and heavier, she still looks largely the same. Every one reckoned that she looked more like the wife when she was born, but now they think she looks a little more like me.



But at any rate, she’s our little bundle of joy and I am thankful to be here with her, and hopefully to have many many more years to come. 

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